I like to get things right all the time. And I mean all the time. For example, one of the really cute things I do, that people just admire and gasp over, is that I plan my route exactly how I need to go. First the store, then here to pick up my laundry, and then to work, but I have to take this road, but this one is tore up from the floor up, etc. But it took me awhile to figure out the route because I want to optimize every little moment. I don’t ever want to waste a trip because—I need the outcome to be the best. I’ll sit in my car for 10 minutes doing this. It is super attractive.
Like I’ve said, I attended the World Domination Summit and heard people talk about how we should just start. You might start with a small plan, but if you hem an haw over the perfect plan, you’ll never get started. Orville and Wilbur, they crashed a billion times and nearly got themselves killed (I did not research this notion—I just imagine they almost did.)
My friend, Tim Grahl, recently said something that lit me up like Rockefeller Center in December—
“Treat it all like an experiment: working out, writing, online projects, finances, etc. Just experiment. If it fails, shrug and move on. That’s how we find out what works for us.”
That’s what I’ve been doing the past two months—I’ve been treating everything (and I mean, everything) like an experiment. Maybe this route is easier to go down, maybe not. Let’s find out! Maybe this customer like this. Oops, they didn’t think that was funny. Let’s not do that again. Moving on. Maybe I’ll lose weight by having a bigger breakfast—let’s try that. Great. It worked. We’ll keep doing that.
By just focusing on experimenting I’ve been able to cut down my anxiety because my personal buy in has been removed.
I can simply shrug my shoulders when I attempt something new and it blows up in my face. I’ve reduced the expectation of a success to a mere mote of jelly bean skin. If nothing comes of it, then nothing comes of it. Now granted I want it to work and I don’t want to be careless—let’s not kid ourselves. But here’s where I’ve had success:
- Lost 5 lbs by recording everything I eat in the app MyFitnessPal.
- Doing 30 days of healthy eating.
- Working on a side gig for 6 months. December 4th I’d like to have it launch. More on this later. I plug away it at on my days off or an hour a day. Whatevs, but I make progress every week.
- I read 50 pages a week of a different book. If I like it, I stick with it. If I don’t, I move on. I then drop the rejected, orphaned, sad ass book at my local Starbucks to be picked up by someone else. Done. (Now there are those of you who say I should sell the book‚ but that takes time and I’m not doing them in large batches. I’m working on the above—so it’s not worth the ROI my stingy friend.)
My anxiety has been crushed by this simple exercise. I’m just willing to try habits for a limited amount of time (10-30 days) and if it doesn’t work out, I drop it and move on. I have to be willing to give habits a shot but I’m not hung up on the failure. I use Apps like LIFT and CARROT to keep me honest.
Loyal reader, give it a shot. Just pick one small action towards life improvement and experiment for 10-30 days. Something really tiny and manageable like:
- Call one friend I have lost touch with every two weeks.
- Eat a MASSIVE breakfast for 30 days (and weigh yourself pre and post experiment)
- Stop eating after 8:00 PM and then ratchet it back 5 minutes a day until you hit 7:00 PM.
- Always take 3 pieces of trash out of your car when you get out for 10 days.
- Learn 30 Spanish words a week for two months.
- Walk around your block twice everyday for two weeks
- All your change goes in the MAGIC JAR when you come home. Count the change after 30 days.
Try something small and then post what you’ll do. I’d love to know.